Episode 8: Breaking the Taboo, Let’s Talk About Sex! (Part 1)

[00:00:00] Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, coming to you from somewhere deep in the heart of Texas, you're listening to The Unspoken Podcast, where nothing is off limits. Here's your hosts, Breyden and Cody.

[00:00:19] Welcome back to another episode of The Unspoken, Cody's having some technical difficulties with him with his head. Did you flip it, turn it? Put your thing down, flip it in reverse, there you go. What is going on dude? Okay, just put the other ones on. Turn it, yeah, flip it like, pull that out. Oh, alright. There you go. And now flip that in, flip it in. Flip what in? Le Muffler, you got it. He's not much of a tech kinda guy, you know. I'm not, you know, I'm not even worried about that. I'm not. Alright, I'm here, I'm here. Are you in, you good? You hear yourself?

[00:00:47] That's terrible. Yeah, well at least we heard you on the microphone, it was great. Oh, did you? Okay, yeah, that was rough. Welcome back to The Unspoken Truth, the podcast where we dive deep into topics that go often unspoken. I'm your host, Breyden. I'm Cody. What's going on guys? We're tackling a subject that's often shrouded in taboo, yet it's a natural part of human life, sex. One of Cody's favorite things, right? One of them. Yeah, actually it is, but it's one of multiple people.

[00:01:16] Yeah, many people. Many people. Sex is, sex can bring joy, let's see, connection, intimacy, but can also be a source of confusion. It's healthy. Confusion, anxiety, it is healthy. Coming from a nurse. Yes, yeah, absolutely. But yeah, today we're breaking down the barriers and discussing the unspoken truths about sex. I can't wait. Man, I can't wait. So let's start with the basics. Why do you think sex is such a taboo topic in society?

[00:01:44] Why is it taboo? Because people are embarrassed of the things that interest them. People are embarrassed of the way they look, they're embarrassed of the way they act, they're so critical in themselves that they are afraid to express their desires, whether it be sexual or not. Yeah, exactly. And this taboo can lead to a lack of education. Yeah. Oh my gosh. For instance, and I'm like, I like that. I didn't back in the day, but we could try it again. You know that, you know that try it once, see if you like it.

[00:02:14] That's what I literally was just about to say. You gotta try it twice. Yes, because once I think you're scared. Well, you're like, you're too analytical. You're looking at things in way too... Analytical form. Yeah. And then second time, you actually might like it. The third time might be better. Fifth time, I don't like it, but let's do it again. You know what? No, the third time is the strike. Yeah. No joke. First time, it's so chaotic. Second time, you think you like it, and the third time, you really gotta see.

[00:02:41] Absolutely. And for instance, many people grow up without the proper sexual education, leaving them misinformed or even feel fearful of their own bodies and desires. Do you agree? No joke, we're still learning about it. Yeah. Chop it off, tuck it in, wrap it around. Just, there's... Helicopter. Talking about sex. Helicopter. I've seen a couple of those videos. Oh, I love when they're riding it and they're fucking just helicopters right in front of me. Oh my god, that is great. That's my baby.

[00:03:10] Alright, alright, cool, cool. It's a fun topic. So, it is really great, and I feel like I've discovered myself sexually a whole lot since with Bronco, personally. Exactly. And I've told you, I've expressed this to you before and told you, and from then to now and not be so, because it was so taboo and just trying different things because you don't know if you're gonna like it. And I'm not gonna tell you, unless you know me, you know I'm a crazy person. I'm a crazy person. I'm a kid into some freaky dicky shit. My god. I even told a friend that yesterday. I am that friend, but I'm not that friend.

[00:03:35] But I, you know, and, but it's true, like, you don't know if you like it, and sometimes, like, for me, the way that I was raised, it's like, oh, you don't do that. And I'm like, why not? Like, the sex doesn't have to be so vanilla, you know? No joke. Tie me up to the fucking bed, you know? Face down instead of missionary, yeah. Push that face down in the pillow, you know what I mean? There's so much out of breath, you can't say it fucking safely. You know what? Choke me until I wake up again. That's... You know what, guys? That's a thing.

[00:04:04] Be around a medical professional if you do so. Make sure that you know somebody that knows CPR and it can bring you back to life. You don't need CPR, but... You just need to make sure you can bring somebody back. Make sure they stop. And, you know, you might like it after 15 times. Or three. 13. Told you, three is the number. You know, three is the number. So let me ask you a question. This is a... You and I have talked about this before. So sex. For me, I feel like when you define sex, sex is penetration. I think that sex, if you get...

[00:04:33] If you're male or female, it doesn't matter what sexuality you are or whatever. I got your answer. Hold on. So penetration, if the penis goes in a hole, that is considered sex to me personally. And then, like, if you're giving... You said if a penis goes in a hole. A penis, like a male... Well, penetration. If you have penetration... Then when they penetrate your mouth. In a... Because I know what you're trying to avoid is oral sex. Oral sex. Oral sex. Yes, I was talking about... No, oral sex is sex. Okay. It also comes with the word sex. Not only that, but you can catch an STD. Anything that can pass an STD, obviously, is sex.

[00:05:03] It's a sexual activity. Okay. And that's what... That's... See, I think that's where... Because we've talked... A handjob is even fucking sex. Because if you don't wash that motherfucker, you're going to pass that thing. I just, like... That's what I said. That's where we see differences. Because I just feel like if you're getting penetrated in that sex... And like you said, the way you explained it, it's oral sex. So it's still sex. I just feel like if it's penetration, it's... Because what somebody would say when I was talking to them about that earlier, they're like, yeah, we fucked around. But it's not sex. I would consider that... I've heard it in all kinds of terms. The terms confuse me. Yeah. But a duck is a duck.

[00:05:33] It's sex. Okay. So just anything sexual or sex? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. Catch an STD? Yeah. Did y'all know that? Like, did you know you can catch an STD from kissing? You know... Mono? That's not an STD, but... Gonorrhea. You... From kissing? Yeah, because it's a warm cavity where it gets stored. It can store it in the back of your throat. Even if you've given head to somebody with gonorrhea or ate somebody out with gonorrhea... It's obviously store...

[00:06:02] It's harvesting in the back of your throat. So when you kiss and it's another warm mouth, it can pass. Yeah, sure. See, I learned something new today, y'all. Like, wow. Wow. Of course it can. That is crazy to me. Like, damn. Okay. Well, now let's touch on the emotional side of sex. Like, just moving on forward. It's not just a physical act. It can actually have profound emotional implications. I think, like, sex can strengthen bonds, but it can also complicate feelings. You know, we need to recognize that sex...

[00:06:31] ...and recognize the emotional aspect and navigate it responsibly. Don't you think? I agree. Sex and sex should be emotional. I mean, it's fun. Even... But even emotionally, it should be fun. I mean... I believe that you can have sex and have a great time, but you can make love and it be just a... You know what I'm saying? The two... I think there's two different... Making love is great. Making love is great. Yes. For sure. But they're two different realms. Because making love... You can mix the two. Well, I agree that you can mix it, but they're still two different. Making love and having sex are two different things. Agreed. Yes.

[00:06:59] Yeah, having fun, making love, and having fun, having sex can be mixed. But having sex and making love are two different to me also. Yes. Okay. Okay. I agree. Yeah. So... I mean, laughing in the middle of sex, doing something stupid, saying something stupid that you are caught in the moment saying... Yeah. It's great. It's funny. I mean, that's how it should be. You should be able to laugh with it. You should be able to also get off... Yeah. Get right back to it. I agree with that.

[00:07:26] And there's been very few people in my life that, whether it be a hookup or somebody that I'm talking to, if it's a hookup, it's going to be one of the... Thank you. It'll be done. But there have been, like I said, those handful of people when it's just like, okay. And you know when the chemistry is right and you're ready to go for another round, like, all right. You ready? Right? Okay. Let's do it. And then you keep going. And then four hours later, bitch, I got to go home. Even if it's like, I can't get off, but man... Keep going and have fun. We'll see where it goes. Absolutely. So until bitch, I'm going to die, get off. Yeah. Oh my God. Turn the air down. That's horrible. You can't even breathe. I'm so out of shape.

[00:07:55] Like, oh, it's horrible. That brings on sex toys. Sex toys are fun too. I mean, there's all kinds. You can be into... I'm not even going to list them. There's so many kinds. We have an episode coming up about that. That's going to be fun. And we've got someone maybe coming in that sells them or... Dominatrix. She's very supportive in it. Yeah, we'll have some up here. We'll get to talk about them. Yeah, it'll be fun. Maybe some that we've tried. Yeah. Man, like... We thought about that.

[00:08:23] We had a competition one time and talked about doing that egg where you can control it. Somebody else controls it. I won the competition, so it won't be up my butt. But obviously, you know who lost. You called. We got to know we have a whole thing about sex toys. Don't worry. That'll be recorded. Sex toys are great too. Sex toys and sex are good. It doesn't have to be taboo. Talk about it. Talk about... Watch porn together. I mean... See, I'm not a big porn watcher. Porn doesn't do anything for me. Other people... I mean, it does. It's not... Different strokes for different folks. Absolutely. I mean, bondage type stuff isn't for everybody either. You know what?

[00:08:52] I can't stand you. I mean... It is what it is, you know? What do you think about role play? Some people just like missionary, which is outlandish to me. It's just very outlandish. It's like the people that wear masks in the car still. They have sex with lights off. I mean... I can't. I can't. But seriously, it should be fun. You should be able to talk about it. It's not... I would... I feel like... And it's awkward and uncomfortable, especially gay sex. He might shit on you. See? It might get messy.

[00:09:20] You know, until it smells too bad, fucking go at it. Change your sheets. It is what it is. No. So listen, I... Okay. So up until... Before I met Cody, because I didn't know... Cody and I knew each other mutually through Facebook. Look, before... Before I will... When me and Bronco were alive, we knew each other, but we never knew each other in person. So before that, Bronco was the one that told me... Because, of course, it's ass sex. You're gonna... Like he just said, there's gonna be accidents. Never in my life... You know, I'm like, I would be mortified. I would never... Shit's gonna happen. Literally.

[00:09:50] And so Bronco said that, and he goes, Brayden, he's like, it's your butthole. He's like, the shit's gonna come out, and it's gonna be okay. He's like, you're my husband, my fiance. He's like, you'll totally be fine. I go, I would be mortified. But he goes, why? I mean, people go for the Red Wings, and I... I mean... That's... That's... You know? That's it. That's them. That's their way. We go our way. Right. So, he made me feel better about that, and then when, like, when Cody and I became friends, and we were just... We were talking about random shit, and he said, yeah. He's like, that's what happens.

[00:10:19] It's your fucking booty hole. Laugh about it, shower, and go back at it. I mean, sometimes. Yeah. Till this day. God bless America. So, I'm okay with that. Like, I haven't... I would still be mortified. I get it. I get it, but it's still... I've got some stories. I've heard a couple, but... Ma'am. But yeah. So, yeah. Okay. So, sex toys, like I said, that's gonna be an episode. What do you think about role play? I'm not too big into it, to be honest with you.

[00:10:46] But I've known, I've had friends that have been into all kinds of role play. I mean, like the doctor thing, all kinds of things. I'm not too big. I can't speak much on it. I don't know or do much of it. Yeah. You don't do... Not role play. Okay. You know what? You know what I want to... What about dominance in the bedroom? Dominance? What do you think about that? I'm here for it. Like, that's not anything... Are you dominated or dominant? I mean, it depends on the mood. I mean, it's just like if I meet... Depends on the person.

[00:11:16] Depends on the person, not the mood. It does depend on the person. That's 100% truth, because you can't come in here and just be like, this person's like, they're like, I'm gonna be, I'm a dom in the room. And then you get there and you're like, what are you doing? I've never bought them before. Why do you... Yes. So, and I'm gonna tell you, I'll be up front with you guys. Like, sexually for me, I mean, throw me around. Like, I like that. And when you get those guys, you're like, yeah. And I'm like, bitch, you weigh 120 pounds. How are you gonna throw this one... It's not gonna happen. I got you. Like your wrestlers, throw yourself around. Ouch.

[00:11:46] Yeah. I just hit my head on that kind of bullshit. But yeah, no. And like, I think there's been some things like I've done. Like, well, we're gonna go like balls to the wall here. Like, I don't understand a lot of things that sexual... Some people get in... Whatever floats your boat. Yeah. I'll dive in, just go into something. Like, you know what I don't understand? It's not harmful. Yeah. We were talking about this. I don't... I... And I'm not knocking it. I want to understand it.

[00:12:16] It's the pup mask. I don't understand the dog and the pup playing. I've looked into it a little bit and known some people too. Right. From what I know, and just speaking about only what I know. Right. Is that it's like an escape for them. Kind of like... An alternate... Almost like someone dressing in drag. Yeah. Like an alternate personality when you get to be... I don't think they like to use it as a different personality. They... An alternate element? Yeah. Like, when I read about it, it was more so saying that they get to express another part of themselves.

[00:12:45] I know that sounds like another personality. But it just... When I... I don't know. It kind of specified that they didn't want it to be termed like that. Yeah. Okay. So, yeah. It was just like being free, letting loose. Exploring the sexual side of... It wasn't sexual. It was just... Okay. Yeah, it's not sexual. Yeah, and so like I said... I think it's like become sexual. Yeah. But it's not sexual. Not like what it was initiated for. See, there was a guy... And like I said, I'm not meaning any kind of... I'm not into it. You're saying? I'm putting that on right now. Same. I don't even like... I had to ask... I don't even...

[00:13:15] I have friends that do it. Yeah. Same. But I'm not like... Into it. At all. And that's, you know, because... Well, I'll tell you this. When Cody moved to Dallas this past year, when he... There was... I was on a hookup app and I had told him this guy... And like I said, I don't mean any disrespect. I'm not into pup play. I don't know what it is or whatever. And I don't know a lot about it. This guy messaged me and he's like, I want to need you. And I'm like, Cody, what the fuck is needy? And he's like, what are you talking about? I was like, this guy said he wants to need me. And then Googled it and then got the medical terminal. And I'm like, oh.

[00:13:45] You know. And that goes to another episode of sex toys. But to each their own. It's just not something I want to do. And it's just, you know... Because being tied up in the bedroom may not be for the person that's into the pup play kind of thing. You know, vice versa. So I don't knock it in any form. We'll go... It's just something that I may never understand. Which is fine. But not in a negative way. You know what I don't understand too? Not in a negative way. I just... You know what I don't understand too? And I've done it once to somebody.

[00:14:14] It's never been done to me because I vow... Fisted? I have not been... I've never been fisted, no. You've never been fisted? I have never been... I'd like the elasticity. You've fisted? I have fisted one person once. Oh, man. And I guessed it. It was... Yes. And it was a year... It was probably like... Your whole fist? I mean, you've got a small hand. It got up to right here. Oh, my God. Oh, hey. You should get one of them like circle tattoos. You're dumb. You were the one that took one of the lines. Yeah. Have you ever... No. You've never fisted nobody. No, man. That's... And you went... He went to his elbow, yo. That's what he showed me. He showed me all the way to his elbow.

[00:14:44] It was... Yeah. But I have small arms. Ah, no. That's still... That's a... Yeah. And I was like, I'm not into that. You can't do that to me. And he's like, can you do this? And it went like right there. Yeah. Forearm. It's a good donkey dick. And I was like... And I put it in and I go... And I go... I'm thinking I'm going to feel a stomach, some sort of organs. And it freaked me out. And he's like, it's okay. Let me pull it out. And it freaked me out. I know. You know you can fit two raccoons in your butt. You told me that. And just that's... But doesn't it ruin the elasticity? I mean, you're not going to actually put raccoons in your butt. Well, no. No, but I mean like...

[00:15:13] I see people putting... In nursing, I had an anus prolapse. It came out. I just looked right in. Yeah, no. I've never been fisted or fisted. Yeah, no. I've just... I've fisted somebody. That's it. That's about... That's about the craziest that it's got. Like a... If you don't know me, I'll throw this out there. But my nipples are triggered to my dick. Like they're triggered. And it's because I got them pierced. They never used to be like that, but they're triggered. Now, I've tried the electric little shocker thingies. Those motherfuckers... They don't work when you have a piercing. And then a metal rod through it.

[00:15:43] That fucking lights you up. It didn't burn. It almost lit me off the bed. My mom is... I hope she's not listening. As we're starting to wrap up, I'd say embrace the open communication. Whether it's with friends, partners, or even yourself talking about sex. And openly can lead to a healthier understanding experience. Don't you think? Well, agreed. I mean, it opens your relationship too. So watch out for that. No. And that's a whole other episode. Because he does it. I love a good... I don't do open relationships. But I love a good... You know, I love a good throuple. Throuple.

[00:16:13] Not even throuple. I love a good... You just like being the extra of somebody's relationship. The extra? You like being the third for a couple. Yeah. I mean, I've done it before many times. I'm not going to lie. But I mean, it doesn't... It's... Somebody always gets jealous. And it's not the third. It's not the third. It ain't me. It is not me. I go in because there's no feelings attached. And then one gets mad and one likes you. And then you run into all three of them at the Eagle. Three couples. But yeah, so this is very enlightening. This is... This is what we've been trying to reach for you guys. You know, we've been giving you guys bullshit episodes.

[00:16:42] But I think today would be a good one just to talk about it. This sex toy episode is going to be really fun. We're going to have guests. Cody's got an egg in his butt. So... I'm not. I told you I won that bet. He chugged a beer because that's the first time in my life I saw him chug. Like he... Moses opened them gates. Like he chugged. He swallowed that beer in a gulp. I wasn't about to lose. So with sex, I just think that, you know, always remember, ask questions, seek knowledge. There's no shame in wanting to learn more.

[00:17:09] I do this with Cody a lot and I'll text him like, hey, what is this? What does it do? And like, is it safe? Yeah, right. And so, yeah. So... But thank you for tuning into this episode of The Unspoken Truth. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review. We have a brand new website. Do we? We have a brand... I launched it last week. Cody doesn't... I know. I don't... I follow guys, but I don't follow. Yeah. Tell him what he... The important things that he needs. I'm here. I love talking to y'all.

[00:17:35] I love hearing what he says about everything, but no, I don't... So I launched a new website last week. It's a more podcast-friendly website. It's got all of everything on it. You guys check it out, unspokendallas.com. All our socials, all the episodes, you can listen on... With this company, we put our podcasts on Amazon, Spotify, and Apple, just so I could... We could track the listening statistics. But with this company, they track it all in one, and we're listed on... We're listed on 15 worldwide websites. It's insane. So yeah.

[00:18:06] That's crazy. We're growing. We are. You know, in this last episode... Thank you. Yeah. Thanks, guys. I told Cody this last episode, we did the bullshit episode. You guys, that's our highest rated episode. That one was fun, though. It was real. There was no topic on that. We didn't get to talk about... We came into the studio, and I was like, hey, we kept a shot. Let's do it. Everything that we've been going through and everything. Two, I do want to note... Just FYI, I'm getting back into tattoos. Yes. Might as well make it out there. Throw it out there? Yeah.

[00:18:36] Might look into starting a business, but I'm getting back into tattoos. My boyfriend and I tattoo. If y'all want a tattoo, hit us up. And I'll put a link on me. Figure it. Figure out how to do so. And if you don't like it, I can remove it. I got you. Yeah, no. Hit us up if you want one. And, you know, he's a really good tattoo artist. He's done 80 to 90% of my tattoos. Done them for many, many years. And he's really, really good. Very attention to detail and everything like that. So, but yeah. So join us. Let's see. Another week or two. We're going to give you guys another episode.

[00:19:05] We're going to get that sex toy episode together with our host or co-host, and it's going to be really fun. He's going on a cruise, so... I'm going on a cruise this weekend. It'll be good. You better... I can't. I can't. I can't do. So we went to this pool party, and I had a Speedo that I did a photo shoot in years ago. I was drunk, and with a broken ankle, he's like, I can just take your shorts off, but just do it. I was 15. You know, fucking Speedo. A white one. Yeah. And I did it.

[00:19:32] And I mean, I look at him now, and it's embarrassing because I had a belly on me and everything, and I was not... At that time, though, you were looking. Yeah. So now I'm going on this cruise. And so I had tried on this Speedo, and it was tight. Like, it was small. And so we've upgraded now to a large. And I got it the other day, and it fits really well. And I'm still like... Large and Asian. No. It's actually... No. It's Amazon brand. It's not even Asian. No. It's an Amazon. It's a large. And I got it yesterday, and it's still kind of tight, but it's, like, decent.

[00:20:02] I'm going to... I will post that picture for you guys. It's going to take a lot of vodkas or ship drinks or whatever is going to happen to get that on, but you guys are going to get it. It's going to be fun. Take some extra socks. You're a dumbass. This one actually makes it look so good, so we're good. Oh, yeah. Yeah. But I'm excited. What cruise are you taking? Like, what is it? What's the cruise line? Liberty, which is part of Royal Caribbean. Oh, Royal. Okay. Yeah. So I'm flying.

[00:20:27] I hope that, like, this cold weather doesn't fuck up my flight out Friday morning because... I don't see why. You know, they're shutting... Houston. Where are we supposed to get snow? Well, Houston and Louisiana got it now, but we're supposed to get it Thursday is what I heard. Shit. Yeah. I'll be pissed. I would. But you know what? I'm going to save my flight money, give my credits back, and I'll go somewhere else. But yeah. Anyways. All right. Yep. Well, we'll catch you guys next time. Thanks for listening. Check us out on all our social medias, and check out the new website, unspokendallas.com. We love you.

[00:20:56] Have a great day, and we'll talk to you in a couple weeks. The Unspoken Truth Podcast is sponsored by Bray Co Media. And recorded right here in the vibrant city of Dallas. Executive Producers, Braden Marcus and Cody Barnett. Content Co-Producer, Randy Parks. Thank you for listening. For more episodes, show notes, and exclusive content, be sure to check out our website at unspokendallas.com. Until next time, keep seeking the truth. And remember sometimes the things left unsaid are the most important of all. We'll see you next time. Let's go. Bye. Bye.